Dear Steve and Shirley,
I met my husband while he was at work. I had my arm crushed in a bad car accident, and I needed help with my insurance—that was my husband's job at the time. We talked a lot, and he offered to bring me prescriptions and food since I’m right-handed, and that's the arm I broke. We got closer, and after two years of dating, he asked me to marry him. Our wedding was last summer.
Since then, our relationship has gone downhill. He lost his job because he kept missing work, claiming he was in pain all the time from an old football injury. I took over the role of breadwinner, nurse, and babysitter because he came with five-year-old twins from his first marriage. I guess you could say "Fools Rush In" because I’m a big fool to have taken on this man and all his problems. I didn’t know when we were dating that he was only part-time at his job anyway—it seems like he was waiting for a meal ticket, and as soon as he met me, he found his Meal Ticket.
He has new aches and pains every week, and I got sick of it, so I took him to a doctor I knew well. She also has a psychologist in her office, and I wanted my husband to talk to them, but he saw right through me. He accused me of not being supportive, saying he took care of me when I was down, but the minute he has health problems, I want to run for the hills. I told him the truth—that I think he’s making up illnesses to avoid going to work. His unemployment has run out, and I’m not taking care of him anymore.
I know he’s faking because he still wants to have sex as much as possible. He’s a total turn-off for me now, and I want no part of this marriage unless he can prove something is really wrong with him. Am I wrong for feeling this way?